An article in the opinion section of the newspaper caught my eye this past week. It was titled: Priceless (but with a cost). She delved into the whole working/non-working mother issue, and I of course was all ears.
Basically, she went into it about how she worked, had her first baby and kept working. But when her second came a long she decided she couldn't do it any longer and decided to stay at home. Fast forward 10-12 years and she finds herself a divorced mother of 2 teenage boys, working 3 part time jobs to pay the bills. She is not uneducated, she is just un-experienced. She dropped out of the work force, and went part time, right when her career was about to take off. So what does that leave you with? Not much.
I don't think choosing to stay home is a bad idea. Not at all. I did it. I wanted to do it. I enjoyed it. But I'm only 27 and most of the people showing me how to do things and who are a level above me are 25. There is no way that I could have stuck around at home longer, and still been able to get my feet off the ground professionally.
And while some may say, who cares about a professional career, I have to say what about divorce, death, or injuries? I mean, yes it sucks to think about those things but you just never know what life may hand you. Bad things happen to good people everyday. I am sure we could all list someone who life has been unfair to. At least I know I can.
So where does this leave you? I don't know. I would just say, it was a good reminder for me to think about. Our economic system makes staying home an expensive choice, and I don't just mean living on a tight monthly budget. I mean that while you're sacrificing the eating out and the new clothes to make ends meet, you are also sacrificing professional advancement, and while no one cannot hire you because of your age, I am sure they can find someone a lot younger than you with a lot less responsibilities, with the same, or better, qualifications. It's a tough world for mothers, everyone knows what is best for us, but only we can really know what's best.